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Use the KonMari Method to Tidy Your Mind

Your home is living space, not storage space.

Francine Jay

Hoarding Disorder. 1) Hoarding is a persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions because of a perceived need to save them. Mayo Clinic.
Hoarding Word Cloud - words associated with hoarding disorder.

As someone whose OCD manifests as hoarding (as the few people I’ve ever let in my flat can testify), this article by Brad Stulberg for Outdoors magazine so resonates with me!

“There’s growing evidence that a cluttered home or workplace is a stressful one. A recent DePaul University study found that physical clutter is linked with procrastination and, in turn, lower life satisfaction. Other research shows that clutter is associated with elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol.”

“Sparking joy: use Marie Kondo’s approach to declutter your mind.
Along with owning too much stuff, we also pile unreasonable demands on our time. It’s time to limit our focuses.”

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Time is a Great Healer…?

A great article on grief. I wish this site had been up in 2008.

No, time definitely isn’t a “great healer”! Last week was the 11th anniversary of my mother’s death and the pain is still as raw. I had the 11th anniversary of my mam’s death in February. I’m still grieving 11 years on. I couldn’t grieve properly for my mum as I had to be strong for my dad who was disabled. Then he died 5 months later.

After my dad’s funeral ended I went home alone – not one of my uncles,aunts, cousins said okay do you want to come back to ours. If it hadn’t been for 4 of my parent’s elderly frirnds helping me over the following days I would have ended my own life. My relations said “We’ll be in touch” 11 years on and I’m still waiting.

There hardly any counselling provision in Newcastle-upon-Tyne. I got 3 short sessions from the Carer’s Centre and that was it.

At least this year I didn’t self-harm or overdose on the anniversary – lets see if I can do the same next year!